Claire Verity should read this, as should anyone who considers her methods have any sort of merit. I get more and more angry and upset about this entire episode.
From our own discussion group...
This is very sad re the long term effects of TK's regimes
http://www.openwriting.com/archives/2007/01/a_dangerous_ind_1.php
About babies and toddlers, the media, attachment, play, work and parenting.
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I agree with the Truby King survivor entirely. I am now aged 49 and still having counselling for the effects of the kind of parenting advocated by Claire Verity, i.e. being denied love by my mother. The TV programme shows how it's possible to stop babies crying in the short term, but in the long term - well, I'm still crying now, with a string of blighted relationships behind me. Routine is one thing, but cruelty and the denial of love is quite another.
I am amazed that Clare Verity is allowed to behave as she does and not be prosecuted for child abuse. It is so clear that she is a product of ignorant, abusive and cruel parenting herself. She is not a mother and is taking her revenge on other people's babies. Everything she does goes against a mother's natural instinct to nurture, love and bond with her child.
I would like to see her stopped and removed from the "profession".
I agree also. I am so concerned about the lack of physical contact between the babies and their parents; how can true bonding and falling in love with your baby take place under these circumstances? 0 -2 is a key time when the brain is making connections and a child is learning where they fit in the world. If the right connections aren't made at the right time, the effects of this have far reaching consequences in an adults ability to make relationships, trust others etc. Children who suffer emotional neglect, as this is, at this age, do not get the chance to go back and make those connections again. There have been cases where neglected children do not even know how to smell a flower, or that hands are for holding and loving. You only have to look at the damage that the Romanian orphanages do. Yes, the children are fed, clothes and excercised. They are not loved, challenged or played with. Much like Truby King/ Claire Verity. It is child abuse.
I am responsible for Child Protection at my school and would certainly look into a family wh left an infant in the garden, crying for hours at a time...
I am a german psychiatrist and I'm researching about early baby care methods. First I found a german author Johanna Haarer, who was a physician but had nothing to do with child care or psychology. She published her book "Die deutsche Mutter und ihr erstes Kind" (The german mother and her first child) in 1934. This book contained pure nazi-ideology and the method of bringing up babies was the same rough, cruel, unperceptive way that Truby King recommended to practice since 1910. Melanie Klein, the famous austrian-english psychoanalyst wrote in her auto-biography that she was glad Dr. King hadn't done his work when she was brought up by her mother. So he had his influence in german speaking countries. I believe Haarer didn't write down her own ideas but copied Truby King. The King method of bringing up babies and the nazi-ideology: that fits!
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